On how I see love ones…

how perfectionism kills love

An interesting concept, which I kinda find to be true. So many around me search for love, the Perfect One that will make them forever happy. Yet, I only see them hit a wall in their unattainable love and constantly in a state of sadness…

It’s the good AND bad qualities that makes a person loveable to my eyes.

Two people meet and fall in love. Then they marry, and the real Sam or Suzy begins to show through the fantasy, and, boy, is it a shock. So a lot of little boys and girls just withdraw their anima or animus. They get a divorce and wait for another receptive person, pitch the woo again, and, uh-oh, another shock. And so on and so forth.

Now the one undeniable fact: this disillusion is inevitable. You had an ideal. You married that ideal, then along comes a fact that does not correspond to that ideal. You suddenly notice things that do not quite fit with your projection. So what are you going to do when that happens? There’s only one attitude that will solve the situation: compassion. This poor, poor fact that I married does not correspond to my ideal; it’s only a human being. Well, I’m a human being, too. So I’ll meet a human being for a change; I’ll live with it and be nice to it, showing compassion for the fallibilities that I myself have certainly brought to life as a human being.

Daily Chronicles: day…whatever-the-f*ck-it-now-is

Random thoughts:

  • NEVER enough coffee in my veins on a Monday morning…
  • Just watched Into the Badlands yesterday…this is a promising show: martial art moves, bad-ass characters, and a damn smoking hot redhead kicking all their butt and being too clever? OF COURSE I’m hooked 😛
  • So many people are having a hard time around me this year. THIS is a good reminder to keep in mind.

Links of the day:

From my Feedly: What I’ve Hated and What I’ve Loved About Web Development

In “On Web Development” and in other contexts I’ve alluded to wrapping up, ending my old career. That’s only correct to an extent. (In keeping with the intelligence community, always put everyone at risk by adding backdoors.)

from Blog (Philosophy, Adventure, Arts, Web Development) · Jens Oliver Meiert http://bit.ly/1M521Qp

Daily Chronicles: Day one

I miss blogging.

Been complaining for months no, years, that I wanted to write more. Blog again.

So fuck it. I decided today that I would restart writing. Even if it’s just a list of tiny details. Daily thoughts and unimportant events for the rest of the world, but oh so important/funny/cool/memorable for me.

Did I say already how I missed blogging?


• November and December are the worse months of the years to get up early for me. I just can’t rise when the sun is not up, and there’s no decent sunlight before 7:30 am…urghhhhh! My inner body clock is all screwed up again!
• Nano’s been sick. Again. Another cold. Urghhhh!
Geekfest MTL has come and gone, and it was a good success. Taking some much needed vacations from it, but ready to attack its planification by January 2016. Should be amazing!
• Did not have time to mention my new job since I started in September: frontend developer at Plank Design, a cool little web agency that’s been running around since almost 18 years. That’s a rarity in IT/Web field! Missed the agency’s beat.
• I miss podcasting. I miss exchanging on different subjects with people. *sigh*

Links of the day
SVG animation vs GIF animated

From my Feedly: Of impostor syndrome and running in circles (part 1)

If there is ONE subject that touches me a lot in my professional domain, it’s the infamous Imposter Syndrome. Even after 17+ years working as a web professional, I still have that impression of feeling inadequate, that I will be debunked, my credibility “attacked” for not knowing everything…and it’s STUPID! It’s a fucking useless and stupid feeling, an anxious thought that just doesn’t want to leave you alone. No amount of work you do through the years can totally erased all these dark thoughts and feelings you feel most of your time, and in my case, having been the victim of bullying throughout most of high school did NOT help at all with my self-esteem and self-confidence (fuck you all, by the way, you worthless bullies from High School! You are soooooooooooooooooo not worthed all the post-years of trauma, psychological stress and therapy sessions you brought on your victims with all your vile words and physical attacks).

So go read this article from Christian Heilmann: as you will read, even long-time professionals can feel that syndrome. We are not alone!

Of impostor syndrome and running in circles (part 1)
from Christian Heilmann http://bit.ly/1GaAP0v