Can we talk some more about how guilt tripping someone for not being interested in you is a really shitty thing to do?
Look, I’m sorry you’re lonely or depressed or whatever. Those are bad things and having to deal with them isn’t fun. But I am not responsible. It is not my job to sacrifice my autonomy to make you feel better. Your attraction to me does not make your well-being my responsibility.
And to use your unhappiness as a tool to coerce me into a relationship or a sexual situation that I’m not comfortable with makes you a bad person.
Anybody who’s had to put up with this kind of emotional manipulation – you deserved better. You always deserve better. And you aren’t wrong to say no.
Oh yes. This.
from Fragments http://bit.ly/1IX8gXv
Is that the intent of the hardcore interview process? To find people who are pure programming athletes, who amaze passersby with non-recursive quicksorts written on a subway platform whiteboard, and aren’t distracted by non-coding thoughts? It’s kinda cool in a way–that level of training is impressive–but I’m unconvinced that such a technically homogeneous team is the way to go.
from Programming in the 21st Century http://bit.ly/1K4oSxL
“It’s about time we stop mistaking self-knowledge for self-absorption — and realize that nobody has a monopoly on selfishness.”
from Brain Pickings
“The best kind of people are the ones that come into your life, and make you see the sun where you once saw clouds. The people that believe in you so much, you start to believe in you too. The people that love you, simply for being you. The once in a lifetime kind of people.”
– Unknown (via purplebuddhaproject)
“When you’re a kid, they tell you it’s all… Grow up, get a job, get married, get a house, have a kid, and that’s it. But the truth is, the world is so much stranger than that. It’s so much darker. And so much madder. And so much better.”
– Elton Pope, Doctor Who (via introspectivepoet)
from DevOps Reactions http://bit.ly/1A6aHW2
“I think everything in life is art. What you do. How you dress. The way you love someone, and how you talk. Your smile and your personality. What you believe in, and all your dreams. The way you drink your tea. How you decorate your home. Or party. Your grocery list. The food you make. How your writing looks. And the way you feel. Life is art.”
– Helena Bonham Carter (via mysharona1987)
from Fragments http://bit.ly/1wrqgzP
“People don’t see you. They see their perception of you. They see what they want to see.”
– Fatal Shadows, Josh Lanyon (via herchnsns)
from Fragments http://bit.ly/1wSN8gk
from DevOps Reactions http://bit.ly/1GKdggG