If there is ONE subject that touches me a lot in my professional domain, it’s the infamous Imposter Syndrome. Even after 17+ years working as a web professional, I still have that impression of feeling inadequate, that I will be debunked, my credibility “attacked” for not knowing everything…and it’s STUPID! It’s a fucking useless and stupid feeling, an anxious thought that just doesn’t want to leave you alone. No amount of work you do through the years can totally erased all these dark thoughts and feelings you feel most of your time, and in my case, having been the victim of bullying throughout most of high school did NOT help at all with my self-esteem and self-confidence (fuck you all, by the way, you worthless bullies from High School! You are soooooooooooooooooo not worthed all the post-years of trauma, psychological stress and therapy sessions you brought on your victims with all your vile words and physical attacks).
So go read this article from Christian Heilmann: as you will read, even long-time professionals can feel that syndrome. We are not alone!
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Can we talk some more about how guilt tripping someone for not being interested in you is a really shitty thing to do?
Look, I’m sorry you’re lonely or depressed or whatever. Those are bad things and having to deal with them isn’t fun. But I am not responsible. It is not my job to sacrifice my autonomy to make you feel better. Your attraction to me does not make your well-being my responsibility.
And to use your unhappiness as a tool to coerce me into a relationship or a sexual situation that I’m not comfortable with makes you a bad person.
Anybody who’s had to put up with this kind of emotional manipulation – you deserved better. You always deserve better. And you aren’t wrong to say no.
Is that the intent of the hardcore interview process? To find people who are pure programming athletes, who amaze passersby with non-recursive quicksorts written on a subway platform whiteboard, and aren’t distracted by non-coding thoughts? It’s kinda cool in a way–that level of training is impressive–but I’m unconvinced that such a technically homogeneous team is the way to go.
“The best kind of people are the ones that come into your life, and make you see the sun where you once saw clouds. The people that believe in you so much, you start to believe in you too. The people that love you, simply for being you. The once in a lifetime kind of people.”